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The
Deviant Sexual Behavior Prevention Help Site
This
is not professional therapy!
Youth
Oriented Sexual Health Awareness Recognition And Information
Introduction:
As a
juvenile, your generation is challenged by an environment of accelerated
technology and fast-paced lifestyle.
This can be a demanding and stressful time in your life.
As a result, many juveniles have developed a benign sense of
independence, and liberation, without consideration of the legal
expectations of society and the law. Consequently, it is important for
you to understand that many of the laws that apply to adults, especially
those concerning sexual offending and abuse, may also apply to you as a
minor, and could result in criminal prosecution.
As a minor, abstinence, or refraining from sexual activity is a
wise and safe decision that can protect your freedom.
Of
particular concern today is teen couples that engage in sexual activity,
where one of them reaches the age of majority (eighteen in many states,)
and they continue their sexual relations.
Although participation may be consensual, under the law, such a
relationship is considered illegal and defined as sexual offending or
abuse. All it takes is an
irate parent, angry partner, or jealous peer to report you to the
authorities, and you are on your way to jail and prosecution.
In case you didn't know, jail is no vacation!
It makes you feel humiliated, embarrassed, degraded, and isolated
from your precious surroundings, and then you have to deal with the
justice system, which includes prosecutors, lawyers, judges, and the
media.
Sexual
offending and abuse are significant unacceptable violations of the law.
Below is a brief list of questions to ask yourself that may be
indicative of your potential to sexually offend another person, or peer.
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Have you ever persuaded, or attempted to persuade, a younger person
to engage in sexual play beyond the point of show and tell?
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Do you masturbate to deviant sexual thoughts about another minor,
like to show your private parts (flash yourself) in public, or force sex
on another minor?
* Do you like to
see pictures of nude children?
* Do you enjoy
the rush you get by forcing sex on an unwilling minor?
* Do you like to
peek at nude people?
* Do you like to
show your private parts to younger children?
* Do you think
that you are entitled or deserve to have sex with another minor?
Did you know that even as a juvenile, you can be charged with a violation of sexually related laws or statutes that apply to adults. Click here to view some of the Florida Statutes that may apply
Discussion:
In simple language,
abuse with juveniles is often defined as sexual contact with another
person three or more years younger, or any age if force or threats are
used. Abuse is rooted in
deviant sexual thoughts, and can lead to serious legal problems. Deviant
sexual thoughts, when bonded with sexual arousal is called “Faulty Learning.”
* “Faulty
Learning” is not a sickness
or craziness. It is the bonding of deviant sexual thoughts with sexual arousal.
Sexual arousal is like a dimmer switch.
It is not necessarily on or off, but has a variable range of
intensity.
* In addition to “Faulty
Learning,“ offending is
dependent on two primary factors, Opportunity
and Desire.
Simply stated, without both of these operatives present, offending
is not possible.
Therefore, if you have a propensity to offend, keeping these
elements separated is an important intervention tool.
* Rational Emotive
Behavioral Therapy - REBT,
developed by Albert Ellis, PhD, is a
therapeutic process that can be utilized as an intervention tool to
control your deviant sexual thinking.
With his ABC model, Dr. Ellis teaches
that it is not the event
(A) that causes your feelings and
behavior(C), it is your
thinking (B).
And, disputing your thinking is an essential element in resolving
catastrophic thinking. It
also enables you to challenge your “old brain” thinking. You
can find information on REBT on the internet or by clicking
here.
* It
is important for you to understand your emotions and agenda in order to
see the big picture concerning sexual offending:
* Feelings
are physical changes, or
effects that you experience in your body resulting from emotional
reactions to your thinking, such as; anger, resentment, anxiety, etc.
Understanding feelings is an important element in the application
of intervention techniques, as anger, resentment, anxiety, and other
issues can be a catalyst for sexual offending.
Learning to deal with these issues can lower your chance of
offending.
* Healthy
relationships are also a
very strong intervention tool. You
need to understand the meaning of intimacy in order to establish a
healthy relationship. Intimacy
is a series of frequent contacts between two people; in close physical
proximity; who have significant common goals; share personal
information; and care deeply about one another.
* Empathy
is another significant
inhibitor to sexual offending. You must be able to envision the feeling,
and effects that your actions might have on another person by putting
yourself in their place, and seeing your abuse from their perspective.
You must see them as a person growing into adulthood having
stressful memories, psychological trauma, hatred toward the opposite
sex, a lack of trust,
insecurity, and low self-esteem. In
society, we refer to these people as victims.
* It is important to
understand the meaning of Barriers
and Boundaries.
Remember, your rights end where others begin.
Social barriers are one of the most significant barriers that you
cross when you abuse a person. There
are laws set forth by society that set the parameters of wrongful doing.
Understanding the barriers and boundaries you cross when thinking
about offending someone is pivotal in the decision not to abuse.
Maintaining healthy boundaries is essential for human dignity.
* Another important
intervention tool is referred to as “Covert
Sensitization.”
Covert Sensitization is a deterrent to deviant sexual thoughts by
making one’s self physically anxious when experiencing these thoughts. You might envision an irate parent or police officer chasing
you with a gun with the intent to shoot you, or the public
embarrassment,(now from the age
of fourteen,) of seeing your
picture plastered on a Sex Offender web site, or standing in front of a
judge awaiting judgment.