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is resentment? Resentment is the: 1) Harboring of animosity against a person or group of people by your perception mistreated you. 2) Unresolved anger you have concerning a negative event which occurred in your past life. 3) Seething, aching emotional turmoil you feel whenever a certain person or event is discussed. 4) Lack of forgiving - the inability to let go and forget. 5) Root of distrust and suspicion you have when dealing with people or events that brought you pain in the past. 6) Unresolved grief you experience when you find it difficult to accept a loss. 7) Result of being heartbroken after exerting a great deal of effort and energy to achieve something that eventually is lost to you. 8) Long-term suffering in silence when an open expression of hurt is unwanted and uninvited. 9) Terminal illness robbing you of contentment in life. 10) Grudge you hold against a person or group of people whom you feel has kept me from achieving. 11) Feeling offended, but silent when you believe that a person or group of people have ignored or denied you your rights. 12) The root of your depression. When
you are filled with resentment toward a person or group of people, you: 1) Pout or fume silently about a person or group of people in their presence or at the mention of their name(s). 2) Get upset when music, a movie, or a TV show reminds you of the unpleasant interactions you have had with a person or group of people, and speak in a derisive or demeaning way about them, or have nightmares or distressing thoughts or daydreams about them. 3) Become stuck in your efforts for personal growth, and don't even know why. 4) Get furious for no apparent reason. 5) Get depressed, despondent, and find yourself going in circles in my attempts to overcome negative feelings about a person or group of people. 6) Avoid mentioning or discussing anything with someone that relates to your past anger and then getting upset with them. 7) Grit your teeth and smile when you really want to scream and yell when certain people are mentioned to you. 8) Fake enthusiasm and excitement about being with certain people when you would rather have nothing to do with them. How
does resentment develop? Resentment can be the outcome of: 1) Accepting negative treatment from others passively, never expressing negative feelings about it. 2) Agreeing to do something for others yet feeling that you are being taken for granted or taken advantage of. 3) Trying to get others to see your point of view while they ignore or deny the truth or wisdom in what you have to say. 4) Seeing others succeed who have not worked as hard as you. You feel they don't deserve this measure of success. 5) Going unrecognized for your good work or competency while others who are more in favor are recognized. 6) Working hard and having others prevent you from realizing the bounty of your success. 7) Having someone whom you have tried hard to please reject your efforts of caring and concern. 8) An impossible position in a relationship with someone where you are damned if you do and damned if you don't do what the person wants from you. 9) Being embarrassed by a person whose goal was to belittle you. 10) Being consistently rejected, unapproved, unaccepted, and abandoned by another. 11) Being the object of discrimination or prejudice. 12) Being ignored, put down, scorned, and rejected by a person or people for whom you made sacrifices. 13) Having someone you care about be treated unjustly with your requests to stop such action going ignored. 14) Trying my best to please someone, but no mater how well you did, it was never good enough. 15) Recognizing that you are the one who always makes the effort in a relationship, and when you stop giving the relationship ceases. 16) Giving in a relationship hoping to sustain it, but the other person abruptly terminates it. 17) Never getting the chance to seek reparation for having been victimized. What
are the negative effects of your unresolved resentment? When you have unresolved resentment, you: 1) Are touchy or on edge when or are reminded of the person or persons you resent. 2) Usually deny any anger or hatred against those whom you resent. 3) Are provoked or angered when you see those whom you resent get recognized and reinforced for their achievements. 4) Are bothered by your hostile, cynical, and sarcastic attitude; it becomes a barrier between you and the people with whom you want to establish a healthy relationship. 5) Get stuck in your efforts to grow as a person. 6) Reject all efforts to get yourself to work on forgiving and forgetting past offences and hurts. 7) Resist all attempts to get on with your life, including the suggestion that you have unfinished business with people from your past, which needs to be addressed. 8) Find it difficult to open yourself up to trust others, especially in new relationships. 9) Find it hard to believe that you'll ever be recognized for your competency, worth, and abilities. 10) Tend to overcompensate in your efforts to be successful. What
irrational thinking underlies your resentment? 1) No matter what you do it is never good enough so why try? 2) People are out to get you so, you'll reject them before they reject you. 3) There is no use in resolving unfinished business with people from your past who mistreated you. 4) Everyone is out to get you. 5) Hard work, a clean life, and treating people fairly is a waste of time; it has never paid off for you. 6) There is no way you can forgive or forget your negative past. 7) You'll never win at anything you try; You've always lost up until now. 8) There are the haves and the have nots, and you're a have not guaranteed to be a loser. 9) Your life should at least be fair. 10) It is better to grin and bear it; You'll never get anywhere with an open, honest approach. 11) What's done is done, so let it be. 12) You've never been given a break in the past; why should you expect anything-different now? 13) It's all a matter of politics; who you know and who you have to bow down to that determines your fate. 14) It's who you know rather than what you are that determines your success. 15) Why is it that people with fewer talents, who work less, and struggle little, always seem to get ahead while you remain stuck. 16) The price of hard work and effort seems to be failure and disappointment for you. 17) There's always going to be someone who will guarantee that you'll be unsuccessful. 18) They are all alike; why try to win them over or be nice to them. 19) It will never change; why try to alter the situation between you and them. 20) There are always people more talented, hansome, and more competent standing in the wings to take your place.
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